The baby is due anytime now and while I feel ready (more or less), I’m concerned the adjustment will be hard on June. As much as I want her to have a sibling — an ally! — I feel kind of sad taking away her special only child status.
I’ve been hitting up friends who have more than one child for advice on how to ease the transition on June and here are a few of their suggestions:
- Get out June’s photo albums and replay events of her babyhood: “Mom is going to spend a lot of time feeding your new sister, just like I did with you.”
- Ask her opinion when I’m shopping for baby stuff — what color of socks she thinks her sister might like, whether to get her this plushy toy or that plushy toy.
- When Jake has the baby, take that time to spend one-on-one time with June, not race around the house catching up on chores.
- Stock up on books and videos to help her prepare. Lately, June has been obsessed with the Dora the Explorer “Big Sister Dora” DVD that we checked out from the library. She asks to watch it every day. It puts a really happy, positive spin on all the great things that come from being a big sister.
- To give June a feeling of special privileges, ask her to select which of her toys her baby sister can play with and which are for big girls only.
- Upon their first meeting, have the baby present June a gift…but what?
- Give June some baby responsibilities. She’s really taken to this one. So far, she’s been practicing how to change diapers on her dollies, push them in the infant swing and tuck them into bed.
- Tell her this is her new baby too.
- Expect a little regression. If she wants to drink from a bottle because she sees the baby doing it, let her. It’s all about picking your battles!
Do you have any other advice we should heed?